Prepping for Highly Stressful Situations

So I got this meeting tomorrow with Child Services. I had an appointment with my DBT therapist this morning. She gave me some really great suggestions to prepare myself for this meeting. I just really hope I can follow through.

The case worker is a horrible, horrible woman that has mocked me and my struggle with BPD. She has caused such extreme emotion in me that I have dissociated.

My ex-husband is going to be at this meeting too. He absolutely hates me to an extreme. He twists the facts of a situation and his interpretations are lies. He feeds this shit to our daughter and she is helpless to his lies.

So I go to this meeting with these 3 people and I'm expected to keep it together. I'm smiling to myself just thinking about it. How the fuck am I supposed to keep it together??? Well this is what my therapist told me to do:

• Mindfulness - practice, practice practice. All day.
• Distraction - unpacking from my move. Be mindful whilst unpacking. Play with my dog, maybe do some training with her.
• Interpersonal effectiveness skills GIVE - be Gentle, act Interested, Validate, Easy manner
• Stick to the facts - avoid interpretations and judgments.
• Practice saying/speaking certain specific sentences/statements. "I would like to respond to that, if I may." "I understand that our previous interaction has been less than amicable but I would like to move forward." "You have to understand as a mother yourself, it is very difficult for myself to have no contact with my daughter. I love her, I'm concerned for her especially when I know she is being told untruths and I am not able to fill in the blanks of these untruths."

So please all pray for me, send me positive energy, or do whatever it is you do to wish someone the best of outcomes.

That is all for now.............