Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own. ~Harold Coffin
Envy Words
Envy Disgruntled "Green-eyed" Bitterness Displeased Longing Covetous Dissatisfied Pettiness Craving Down-hearted Resentment Discontented Greed
Prompting Events for Feeling Envy
- Someone has something that you really want or need but don't or can't have
- Someone gets positive recognition for something and you don't
- Being around people who have more than you have.
- Someone you are competing with is more successful than you in an area important to you.
- Others get something you really want and you don't get it.
- Being reminded that you don't have things you want when others do
- You are not part of the "in" crowd
- Someone appears to have everything
- You are alone while other are having fun
- Someone else gets credit for what you've done
Interpretations of Events That Prompt Feelings of Envy
- Thinking you deserve what others have
- Thinking others have more than you
- Thinking about how unfair it is that you have such a bad lot in life compared to others
- Thinking you have been treated unfairly by life
- Thinking you are inferior, a failure, or mediocre in comparison to others who you want to be like
- Thinking you were unlucky
- Comparing yourself to others who have more than you.
- Comparing yourself to people who have characteristics that you wish you had
- Thinking you are unappreciated
Biological Changes and Experiences of Envy
- Muscles tightening
- Teeth clamping together, mouth tightening
- Feeling your face flush or get hot
- Feeling rigidity in your body
- Pain in the pit of the stomach
- Jitteriness, nervousness
- Feeling nervous tension, anxiety or discomfort
- Hating the other person
- Wanting the person or people you envy to lose what they have, to have bad luck or to be hurt
- Feeling pleasure when other experience failure or lose what they have
- Feeling unhappy if the other person experiences some good luck
- Wanting to hurt the person or people you envy
- Having an urge to get even
- Feeling motivated to improve yourself
Expressions and Actions of Envy
- Doing everything you can to get what the other person has
- Working a lot harder than you were to get what you want
- Trying to improve yourself and your situation
- Taking away or ruining what the other person has
- Attacking or criticizing the other person
- Doing something to get even
- Doing something to make the other person fail or lose what he or she has
- Saying mean things about the other people or making people look bad to others.
- Trying to show the other person up, to look better than the other person
- Avoiding persons who have what you want.
Aftereffects of Envy
- Narrowing of attention
- Attending only to what other have that you don't
- Remembering and ruminating about all the other times that others have had more than you.
- Ruminating about what you don't have and not being able to think of anything else.
- Making resolutions to change
- Discounting what you have, not appreciating things you have or that other do for you.
Typical Secondary Emotions of Envy
- Shame about feeling envy, anguish
- Feeling degraded or humiliated in front of others
- Frustration, anger or hostility
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