Tuesday, 21 May 2013

DBT Describing Emotions - LOVE


"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love Words
Love     Compassion     Longing     Adoration     Desire     Lust     Affection     Enchantment     Passion     Arousal     Fondness     Sentimentality     Attraction     Infatuation     Sympathy     Caring     Kindness     Tenderness     Charmed     Liking     Warm

Prompting Events for Feeling Love

  • A person offers or gives you something you want, need or desire
  • A person does things you want or need the person to do
  • A person does things you particularly value or admire
  • Feeling physically attracted to someone
  • You spend alot of time with a person
  • You share a special experience together with a person
  • You have exceptionally good communication with a person
  • Being with someone you have fun with
Interpretations of Events That Prompt Feelings of Love
  • Believing that a person loves, needs or appreciates you.
  • Thinking a person is physically attractive
  • Judging a person's personality as wonderful, pleasing or attractive
  • Believing that person can be counted on, or will always be there for you
Biological Changes and Experiences of Love
    When you are with or thinking about someone:
  • Feeling excited and full of energy
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Feeling self-confident
  • Feeling invulnerable
  • Feeling happy, joyful or exuberant
  • Feeling warm, trusting and secure
  • Feeling relaxed and calm
  • Wanting the best for a person
  • Wanting to give things to a person
  • Wanting to see and spend time with a person
  • Wanting to spend your life with a person
  • Wanting physical closeness or sex
  • Wanting emotional closeness
Expressions and Actions of Love
  • Saying "I love you."
  • Expressing positive feelings to a person
  • Eye contact, mutual gaze
  • Touching, petting, hugging, holding, cuddling
  • Sexual activity
  • Smiling
  • Sharing time and experiences with someone
  • Doing things that the other person wants or needs
Aftereffects of Love
  • Only being able to see a person's positive side
  • Feeling forgetful or distracted; daydreaming
  • Feeling openness and trust
  • Feeling "alive", capable
  • Remembering other times and people you have loved
  • Remembering other people who have loved you
  • Remembering and imagining other positive events
  • Believing in yourself, believing you are wonderful, capable, competent
Typical Secondary Emotions of Love
  • Exhilarating feeling of joy
  • Ecstasy
  • Contentment
  • When the loved one is not available or doesn't respond, feelings of sadness, grief, anger, hatred or shame

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