“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-ey'd monster, which doth mock the meat it feeds on.” ― William Shakespeare, Othello
Jealousy Words
Jealous Cautious Clinging Defensive Fear of losing someone/something Self-protective Mistrustful Rivalrous Suspicious Wary
Prompting Events for Feeling Jealous
- Someone is threatening to take away important things in your life
- A desired relationship is threatened or in danger of being lost
- You find your lover is having an affair
- Someone goes out with the person you like
- Someone ignores you while talking to a friend of yours
- A potential competitor pay attention to someone you love
- Someone is more attractive, outgoing or self-confident than you
- A person you are romantically involved with looks at someone else
- apparently flirtatious behaviour of your partner towards someone else
- Your boy/girlfriend tells you that s/he desires more time alone
- Not being treated with priority
Interpretations of Events That Prompt Feelings of Jealousy
- My partner does not care for me anymore
- I am nothing to him/her
- He/she is going to leave me
- He/she is behaving inappropriately
- I don't measure up to my peers
- I deserve more than what I am receiving
- I was cheated
- No one cares about me
- My rival is possessive and competitive
- My rival is insecure
- My rival is envious
Biological Changes and Experiences of Jealousy
- Breathlessness
- Feelings of rejection
- Fast heartbeat
- Need to be in control
- Choking sensation, lump in throat
- Becoming mistrustful
- Muscles tensing
- Feeling helpless
- Clenching teeth
- Wanting to grasp or keep hold of what you have
- Feeling suspicious and mistrustful of others
- Having injured pride
- Wanting to push away or eliminate your rival
Expressions and Actions of Jealousy
- Violent behaviour towards the person threatening you
- Threatening violence towards the person threatening you
- Attempting to control the freedom of the person you are afraid of losing
- Verbal accusations of disloyalty or unfaithfulness
- Spying on the person
- Interrogating the person, demanding accounting of time or activities
- Collecting evidence of wrong doings
- Clinging, enhanced dependency
- Increased or excessive demonstrations of love
- Increased demands of sexual activity
Aftereffect of Jealousy
- Narrowing of attention
- Being hyper-vigilant to threats to your relationships
- Becoming isolated or withdrawn
- Changing the interpretation of previous events to suggest that jealousy is reasonable
- Seeing the worst in others
Typical Secondary Emotions of Jealousy
- Feelings of hatred
- Becoming anxious of others
- Feelings of shame or guilt
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